One question I get all the time is, “How long does it take to progress from a beginner to an advanced level?”
I know students mean well with this question, but it’s not really the most productive way to think about game.
Rather than focusing on the destination, the key to getting to advanced lies in embracing the journey.
That journey isn’t about achieving one specific goal; it’s about gradually evolving as a person.
And that type of change doesn’t happen overnight.
It requires dedication, self-analysis, and consistency.
If you’re a beginner, you shouldn’t necessarily expect immediate results…
Instead, focus on building a skill set that will reap rewards in the long run.
The path from beginner to intermediate will vary by person.
Some beginners may find it relatively easy to transition to intermediate if they are socially intelligent but lack the confidence to approach women. For them, gaining early success by overcoming their initial fears can make the progression relatively quick.
On the other hand, those with deeper insecurities might require more time to build the necessary self-belief to overcome their nervousness around women.
No matter where you’re starting from, a positive feedback loop is crucial to success in game.
Embracing every interaction as a learning opportunity and celebrating small victories can lead to greater progress. Conversely, focusing solely on immediate outcomes and becoming disheartened by apparent failures will impede your growth.
To truly excel in game, you must enjoy the process and make it rewarding.
That mindset will help you go from beginner to intermediate.
Becoming advanced is a different story.
Truly mastering game requires analyzing the interactions you have with women to understand the underlying dynamics at play in each set.
It means intentionally crafting the right frames in your interactions.
At an advanced level, game becomes more technical and specific.
Advanced guys know how to create emotional spikes and foster comfort on command.
Now, that may sound daunting…
But just focus on building those technical skills while recognizing each small win as you improve…
And with time, you will get there.
You see…
It’s not about attaining one specific goal, like doing a certain number of sets, but about continuously evolving as a person and having fun with it.
-Todd V
