Makeup LIVE DEBRIEF AND Q+A — 11/15/23
(11:52) For the advanced opening, all you need to do is say an advanced opener and then gain experience with that opener to actually get advanced at it.
(14:18) (Live follow-up question)
(19:30) During my professional photo shoot, how do I get social proof photos? I don’t know girls locally that’d be good for that. Places where I could go and ask girls to do that with me?
Trying to think of places where there’d be hot girls working who I could ask. And offer them a tip. So far, I’m thinking Bars, coffee shops, and a college wondering if it’ll look natural though.
(21:56) (Live follow-up question)
(25:46) Hi Todd, what would you text to follow this?
– she text back after 10 days – see screenshot (this one we had on 1st date was fun but nothing happened, then she flakes the 2nd meeting and didn’t accept the phone calls, each time saying she was sick, – a cold, then this mental health – she seemed normal during our interactions so I guess she is just stressed or a bit sad or maybe those are just excuses). Also, how would you continue the interaction game-wise, more on comfort than teasing and push pulls?
(28:10) What advice do you have for what I do with my facial hair for a photo shoot? I’m thinking of getting both photos with a fuller beard (maybe ½” long), then shaving down to stubble and getting some photos of that too.
Do you agree with the following? – don’t do photos with me clean-shaven since I almost never look that way IRL.
(29:12) How to become more assertive, how to learn that skill?
(33:10) What is your experience with active (roses) vs passive (boosting) strategies for online dating (hinge)?
(34:32) When a girl is not responsive, are lines like: “Relax I know I can be overwhelming but don’t be shy” good? Or what do you say?
(35:17) What things do you recommend to do/have back at your place to have as an excuse to take her there?
(37:54) How should I improve my date progression? At the moment I live with parents and don’t have a place to pull.
First date I do drinks, and try to pull to hers, get a hotel room, or bathroom pull. If it doesn’t go to sex, second date I do an engaging activity to build comfort, and third date I either suggest cooking dinner at her or planning a short weekend trip.
(39:50) Advice on up-leveling my fashion? Places to go where someone will help me learn and put together a great outfit? Places for noticeably above-average fashion?
Especially fitted, fashionable shirts? When does getting custom tailoring make sense to do? Or a custom shirt made?
(42:18) During the weekend I opened a girl (night game), I got to the part about exchanging names, and he asked me where I was from. Then she told me that she had to leave and she escaped haha. What should I have done to stop her and continue the interaction?
(43:10) (Photo Review)
(47:00) I usually get positive reactions to my playful teases, but sometimes choke on follow-up when I feel I have to be clever again. Any suggested fallback formats?
(47:58) How do deal with opening negative responses around logistics? “I’m sorry, I have to run” / “I can’t talk right now” / “I can’t miss my train”.
(48:34) Can you give some elaboration examples of a neutral response? Ex: “omg you look so New York right now, I just can’t” => “ha ok”
(49:32) What things do you recommend to do/have back at your place to have as an excuse to take her there?
(49:36) How to get a girl to be more open to trying new things in bed?
(54:17) How to make talk a shy girl?
(55:39) Should you use misinterpretation with everything verbally she gives you in live set and also with text?
(56:54) In a country like the Czech Republic, where there is more of a dating culture than a hookup one, what dates would you do with a girl, if you had sex on a 5th or 6th date?
(59:24) If your angle is good and you open in front of her on the street then stop her but she slightly stops a little past you. Then she keeps walking so you turn around and walk with her is that good?
(1:00:20) (Live follow-up question)
(1:01:34) Regarding the social photos, I am doing some experiments. Specifically, I bring a camera and tripod to social events, I set it up and take photos for others with it, then have anthers take for me. It’s easy because they don’t need to be good at photography, only need to press the shutter button.
It’s good practice for me because first of all, I like doing it. Secondly, I get many girls’s photos, so I also get their Instagram easily.
Basically using social game for online game. What are your thoughts on this?
(1:02:07) The fact that I go out is good enough to say that the session was a success?
(1:02:22) If you go on a date with a 33-year-old (I’m 28), how would you turn the interaction more in the direction of hooking up? The conversation topics were more around long-term relationships, having kids, and marriage.
(1:04:02) Saw one of your videos you talk about Value proposition – what does it mean? (probably is not just being a good man).
(1:5:05) (Review Text)
(1:09:46) Could you help on improving my text?
(1:10:00) (Review Text)
(1:14:40) What are some instigation lines you use?
(1:15:09) What do you think of board games back at home (e.g. backgammon)?
(1:16:09) Follow up – non-responsive girl. I didn’t mean online but live interaction, and you talk to the girl and she just answers with monosyllables. Saying things like: don’t be shy, I’ll make the convo interesting, is good? Or what do you say?
(1:17:09) What dates do you usually do after sex?
(1:18:13) How do deal with a girl who has a list of questions with her at a date “What’s your biggest fear?”, “When did you feel embarrassed lately?”. Sometimes I feel it’s difficult to find the high-value answer, even if in normal conversation I do great.
(1:18:55) I saw someone mention ‘soft narrative’ on the forum without much context to understand. What is ‘soft narrative’ and any examples to help understand?
(1:19:22) Night game, what to do when just after the opening the girl runs away?
(1:19:50) Can I have a text message review? Just a match two days ago. Hasn’t responded to my last message. I will wait a little longer for now. What are your thoughts about the conversation so far?
(1:22:08) For matching blueprints: when a girl asks your job early on in a date when you have little blueprint info, can you give her the short answer then ask her job and ask blueprint-related questions to find out her why, etc, and then with that info you can expand on your job and relate the reasons for your career to her blueprint?
(1:23:20) Getting from online dating to text works great. Struggle from text to date (low percentages).
I feel like I almost start fresh once we migrate to text and the messages get a bit longer, after a while, she’s not as responsive, or sometimes I escalate a bit too quickly.
Not sure what I’m doing wrong? Trying to get an example scenario or texts you usually send.
(1:25:01) Will the mentor call questions tend to be more online dating-related now we are heading onto the winter months?